Thursday, August 11, 2011

Help with my new children ?

Yeah he probably does. Especially if your feeding. My three year old wanted nothing to do with her new sister. She was okay with her at the hospital but when we brought her home she wanted nothing to do with me or the baby. What I did to change this was while the baby was napping I made that mommy and me time. I played games and made crafts with her I had her help me make dinned and lunch and do t he dishes just like we did when it was just her. Then when I switched to bottle feeding I let her feed the baby. I guess it helped that she had lots of dolls because she thought it was just another doll. I also laid the baby on the floor and would let her sister sit with her and watch the two of them make faces at each other. Just include him in as much as you possible can. Right now he has to get used to the idea of not being the only one. Also make sure you set aside time for just you and him so he still feels special. Maybe set aside one day a week too where he gets to go out with out the babies and its just him so he know that he will still have his independent times. Its really hard when your child looks sad or doesn't want to come near you but if you make the effort it will go away and pretty soon hell be following you around every where again. My little one helps me with everything now from making the bottles to changing diapers to just checking to see if her sister is still breathing. She is a good big helper. Lots of praise and reasurement that she wasn't replaced has made her confident that she will ne a good big sister and wants to be around us all the time now. Good luck and best wishes and hang in there it will get better.

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